To take part in any kind of sexual activity, everyone involved has to consent - in other words they need to agree to what's happening.
If you feel pressured or scared, you can say no and stop at any time.
If someone you're with looks uncomfortable, or if they are obviously not enjoying themselves, then you must stop. Don't carry on just because they haven't said no. Sexual activity without consent is a criminal offence.
Still confused? Watch the video below which explains consent very simply.
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If they say no or ask you to stop, then there's really no doubt - you stop and check they're OK. Where it can get a bit confusing is if they're too scared or nervous to say no - and that's when it's up to you to do the right thing.
These tips should help avoid any confusion:
It is illegal to have sex with anyone under the age of 16, even if they consent (agree). You can legally consent to take part in sexual activity at the age of 16.
If both you and the other person are aged between 13-15 and have consented to sex, it is still against the law. It is less likely that you will get into trouble, but it is not impossible - you are still breaking the law.
Sexual activity with someone under the age of 13 carries greater punishments. This is because a person aged under 13 is thought to be less able to give consent.
The video below covers some commonly asked questions about the age of consent.
This simple guide is designed to help you understand what consent is. Click on each of the letters for more information. You can also download it using the button below.
If there's an adult or friend you can trust, have a chat with them about your questions or worries. They might be able to put your mind at rest or give you some useful advice.
If you live in Norfolk:
If you're 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for anonymous and confidential advice from a health professional. ChatHealth is available Monday to Friday 9am - 5pm.
You can also contact the Norfolk Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.
If you live in Waveney:
You can call the Suffolk School Nursing service on 0345 607 8866 or email childrenshealth@suffolk.gov.uk.
The iCaSH (Integrated Contraception and Sexual Health) service provides help with all aspects of sexual health. It is a free, confidential service and you can refer yourself, so you don't need to have a letter from your GP. In Norfolk they have clinics in Norwich, Great Yarmouth and King's Lynn. To make an appointment call 0300 300 3030.
If you’re the victim of rape or sexual assault, the police and other organisations are here to help. Call 999 to report a rape or attempted sexual assault, as soon as possible after the crime.
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