When your parent's relationship becomes unhealthy, it can lead to one partner having more power and control over their relationship than the other. Eight different types of behaviour can cause a change of power in a relationship. These include:
When one parent uses power and control to harm the other parent, it can be described as abuse.
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The difference between an unhealthy relationship and abuse is based on the use of power and control to harm someone else. Find out more about eight behaviours a parent might use to exert power and control in a relationship.
The National Society for the Protection of Children (NSPCC) says domestic abuse is “any type of controlling, bullying, threatening or violent behaviour between people in a relationship.”
Domestic abuse can happen in any relationship and is not only physical violence. It can include emotional, physical, sexual, psychological (how someone thinks and feels), or financial abuse.
You do not have to wait for an emergency situation to find help. If abuse is happening to your parent or carer, it's important to tell someone and remember you're not alone.
Call the emergency services on 999 if you or someone you know is in immediate danger. You can call Childline on 0800 1111 for free confidential support.
You can talk to your parents or carers, a trusted adult within your school or setting, or any trusted friend.
If you live in Norfolk:
If you're 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for anonymous and confidential advice from a health professional. ChatHealth is available Monday to Friday 9am - 5pm.
You can also contact the Norfolk Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays. You can also refer yourself for mental health support through their online form.
If you live in Waveney:
You can call the Suffolk School Nursing service on 0345 607 8866 or email childrenshealth@suffolk.gov.uk.
Child Contact Centres offer advice to young people whose parents have separated and they are dealing with changes of family arrangements, like who to live with. Their information line 0115 948 4557 is open Monday to Friday between 9am-1pm.
If you are over 16 you can contact the NHS Talking Therapies Service Norfolk and Waveney (known as Wellbeing Service) on 0300 123 1503 (9am – 5pm).
Kooth offers online counselling, advice and emotional well-being support for anyone aged 10-18, seven days a week until 10pm.
MAP Norfolk can give free and confidential support, information and advice on issues such as housing, money and mental health. You can call 01603 766994 or email info@map.uk.net.
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