Divorce or Separation

Divorce or separation are big events in your life and they can make you feel a wide range of emotions. You might be confused, sad, angry, or even relieved about the decision.

It can be overwhelming, but you are not alone. It's useful to remember that each family's situation is different, and asking for support from trusted adults, like parents, relatives, or teachers can be helpful. With time and support the future will be brighter.

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"At the start of 2022 my mum left me, my brother and my dad. It was a very hard time in my life and I was already stressed due to being about to start my GCSE years. It was really hard for me to process and it was the first time I saw my dad cry.

"I feel like I had to mature very quickly from that point. He lost his job a couple of times so he is always stressed over money and work and I feel like sometimes he takes that out on me. I felt as though my dad became very emotionally absent in my life.

"I struggle sometimes but being with my friends helps as it allows me to take my mind off it."

Chloe, Age 16

(Some names changed to protect people's identities)

All You Need to Know

It's important to know that a divorce or separation is not your fault.

Sometimes relationships between adults change, but the decision to separate is about their relationship and not because of anything you did.

It’s common to feel emotions like worry and guilt, but remember to take care of yourself during this time. Give yourself time to think about your needs and you’ll feel stronger to deal with any changes ahead.
It's normal to feel a mix of emotions when your family is going through a divorce or separation.

You may want to talk to a trusted adult, like a relative or teacher to work through how you are feeling and get some support.

If you find talking difficult, you could show them journals you’ve written, music you’ve created or drawings to share your feelings.

It might help to find friends who are going through similar situations. Sharing your experiences with others can make you feel connected and supported during this tricky time.
It's a time of massive change and you will be feeling some strong emotions. It's important to keep talking to your family to let them know how to support you.

They will not want the separation to have a bad effect on you, but it's a big decision and change for them as well and they might not always realise what you're going through.

Be open and honest with them - it's the best way to building a good relationship with both of them as they separate.

Who Can Help?

You can talk to your parents or carers, or a trusted adult within your school or setting, or any trusted friend.

If you live in Norfolk:

If you're 11-19 you can text ChatHealth on 07480 635060 for anonymous and confidential advice from a health professional. ChatHealth is available Monday to Friday 9am - 5pm.

You can also contact the Norfolk Healthy Child Programme by calling Just One Number on 0300 300 0123. Our opening hours are 8am-6pm Monday-Friday (excluding bank holidays) and 9am-1pm on Saturdays.

If you live in Waveney:

You can call the Suffolk School Nursing service on 0345 607 8866 or email childrenshealth@suffolk.gov.uk.

Child Contact Centres offer advice to young people whose parents have separated and they are dealing with changes of family arrangements, like who to live with. Their information line 0115 948 4557 is open Monday to Friday between 9am-1pm.

Childline - if you're under 19, you can call 0800 1111 for free support.

Kooth offers online counselling, advice and emotional well-being support for anyone aged 10-18, seven days a week until 10pm.